Monthly Blog Archives: September 2017

When Your Attempt to Resolve Conflict Fails

When Your Attempt to Resolve Conflict Fails

Test me, Lord, and try me, examine my heart and my mind; Psalm 26:2 Despite your best efforts to resolve conflict, sometimes the offended person will refuse your good intentions. Sadly, there are individuals who will carry animosity and bitterness to their graves. They will not forgive or forget. When I was in the Navy, I made friends with a trumpet player from Detroit. One day on the band’s tour bus, we were joking and laughing — as usual. In the midst of our fun, I said something he didn’t like. From that moment on, he hated me. Vowed to beat […]

How to Resolve Conflict, Part 3

How to Resolve Conflict, Part 3

Blessed are the peacemakers, for they will be called children of God. Matthew 5:9 Why devote so much time to resolving conflict? Because peacemaking shows us to be “children of God.” Jesus is the supreme peacemaker, reconciling man to God. As His followers, we are to be instruments of peace. Some people seem to enjoy causing trouble. They are by nature volatile agitators. And they prey on those they perceive to be weak. To live as Christ commanded is to be humble, gentle, and non-combative. But that should never be construed as weakness. In fact, when we handle life’s conflicts and […]

How to Resolve Conflict, Part 2

How to Resolve Conflict, Part 2

How good and pleasant it is when brothers live together in unity! Psalm 133:1 The psalmist was right. Unity is a wonderful thing but it’s not easy. That’s why God has given so much instruction in His word on How to Resolve Conflict. When my boys were growing up, they had a talent for disrupting family vacations. Their arguments commonly occurred in the backseat of our car. One rhubarb I have never forgotten erupted after their mother had ordered each of them to stay on their sides of the vehicle. “Keep your hands to yourself and be quiet,” she ordered. A […]

How to Resolve Conflict, Part 1

How to Resolve Conflict, Part 1

A hot-tempered person stirs up conflict, but the one who is patient calms a quarrel. Proverbs 15:18 In my many years of marriage, I have never won a silent treatment battle. A silent treatment battle is when two people stop talking because they are angry with one another. It happens in the best of relationships. However, I’m happy to report all of our brief marital squabbles have been resolved. Disagreements happen. They are as much a part of life as breathing. Wherever people coexist problems will arise. And sometimes those problems escalate into conflicts that, if unresolved, can cause pain, suffering, […]

When You Fail to Do the Good You Know

When You Fail to Do the Good You Know

If anyone, then, knows the good they ought to do and doesn’t do it, it is sin for them. James 4:17 Do the right thing. That shouldn’t be difficult. But it is. If it were easy, nobody would cheat, lie, deceive, manipulate, or steal. Queen Elizabeth II once faced a moral dilemma that arose from a promise she made to her father when she was a little girl. She vowed to always stand by her sister, Princess Margaret. The Princess appealed to the Queen to honor that promise by supporting her plan to marry a divorced man. Queen Elizabeth’s initial reaction […]

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